How One Leader Found Clarity & Confidence

Leadership often comes with a quiet cost—especially when you feel like you're carrying more than your fair share. One nonprofit leader came to Brimstone Coaching Group feeling stuck, exhausted, and unsure how to move forward. The pressures of guiding a team, holding space for others, and managing their own expectations had become overwhelming.

But what happened next was a powerful shift.

In one of our coaching sessions, they said:
"I've got a really hard meeting coming up, and I'm going to employ all the tools we've been working on to make sure I show up the way I know that I want to show up."

The day after that meeting, they reached back out with this insight:
"The unexpected gift of the hard meeting was that it was a great gauge for how emotionally healthy I am becoming!"

That’s what coaching at Brimstone is all about—not just getting through the hard moments, but growing through them. It’s about having the tools to reflect, respond, and lead from a place of clarity and confidence—not burnout or fear.

Through our work together, this leader began to:

  • Reflect on the internal narratives that were shaping how they led

  • Replace patterns of self-doubt with a deeper sense of self-awareness

  • Take courageous steps toward authenticity and wholeness

And the result? A more emotionally grounded leader, a stronger team, and renewed clarity about what matters most.

Feeling stuck doesn’t have to be your norm.

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The Hidden Cost of Hiding at Work—And How to Break Free

What if the biggest thing getting in the way of your leadership… was you?

Many high-achieving professionals unknowingly take on two jobs: the one they’re paid to do, and the hidden one of concealing fear, self-doubt, or the belief that they’re not enough. That second job? It’s exhausting—and it’s often rooted in long-held internal narratives formed during childhood.

At Brimstone Coaching Group, we refer to these narratives as Protective Promises—internal commitments we make to ourselves to feel safe or in control. While once helpful, these promises often keep us stuck, limit our growth, and silently shape how we lead.

The good news? You don’t have to stay there.

By engaging in intentional reflection using our transformation equation — E + R = T (Encounter + Reflection = Transformation)—leaders can uncover the beliefs that hold them back and begin replacing them with Purposeful Promises that better reflect who they truly are.

Breaking free from the hidden cost of hiding doesn’t mean pretending everything’s okay—it means learning to show up as your whole self and lead from a place of clarity, authenticity, and wholeness.

Want to explore what this could look like in your own leadership? Schedule a Free Consultation with Brimstone Coaching Group Today.

Practical Leadership Tip: 3 Powerful Questions Every Leader Should Ask Themselves

The best leaders aren’t always the ones with the flashiest vision or boldest strategy. They’re the ones who reflect often, act with intention, and lead from a grounded sense of self.

At Brimstone Coaching Group, we believe transformation starts with reflection. And that starts with asking the right questions.

Here are three we come back to again and again with our clients—and why they matter:

1. What story am I telling myself about this situation—and is it true?
 This question helps leaders uncover internal narratives and old Protective Promises that may be quietly shaping their reactions, assumptions, or decisions. It's not just about the facts—it's about the meaning you've attached to them.

2. How do I want to show up right now, regardless of what’s happening around me?
Leadership doesn’t start with controlling external circumstances—it starts with self-awareness and agency. This question invites leaders to pause, breathe, and step forward with purpose, not reactivity.

3. Where in my leadership am I hiding—and what would it look like to lead more authentically?
This is what we call the “second job” many professionals take on: hiding fear, shame, or doubt. But when we name it, we can step into something new. This question opens the door to living out your Purposeful Promises—and leading with greater clarity, confidence, and wholeness.

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Bring the Promises Workshop to Your Team

Every leader and team carries silent commitments—internal narratives formed long ago to help us feel safe or in control. At Brimstone Coaching Group, we call these Protective Promises. And while they may have served a purpose in the past, today they often limit connection, collaboration, and growth.

Our Promises Workshop is a transformative group experience designed to help your team uncover those hidden promises, reflect deeply, and replace them with new, empowering Purposeful Promises.

Through guided conversation, storytelling, and practical tools, your team will:
✔ Identify the self-protective patterns that influence how they lead and relate
✔ Replace old narratives with Purposeful Promises rooted in authenticity and growth
✔ Strengthen trust, communication, and team cohesion
✔ Walk away with a shared language and actionable tools to navigate challenges

This workshop is perfect for:

  • Corporate teams looking to enhance emotional intelligence and performance

  • Nonprofit boards wanting to lead with clarity and unity

  • Athletic teams striving to build stronger connection and resilience

  • Church leadership and staff seeking authenticity in service and collaboration

If your team is feeling stuck, siloed, or strained, it may not be a strategy issue—it might be a self-awareness issue. The Promises Workshop helps unlock what’s going on beneath the surface so your people can show up fully, lead more authentically, and thrive together.